Saturday, April 3, 2010

Part I - Emotional Connections and Soul Ties

Heart and soul ties can be positive or negative.  It is not possible to be in an intimate relationship together with someone that actually is tied to a connection with another person, or a soul-tie. You could have lived together with your companion and despite the fact that it appears like a relationship and even has the aroma of a relationship; it is not suddenly an intimate relationship until you develop an emotional bond with each other. In reality, lacking an emotional connection it is simply room and board, a nice, cozy location to sleep and also collect your mail. What all of your relationships appear to have in common is the fact that you are expecting and demanding so little of your partner and then that's exactly what you end up getting instead of a soul-mate.

The actual way you build a genuine emotional connection with another person is simply by revealing your inner thoughts, feelings and desires, confiding your own hopes, dreams, goals and disappointments, as well as supporting and praying for each other and their ambitions. This has to operate both ways; it is not a connection unless it is completely mutual, expressing yourself lovingly and in the same way you give you hope and anticipate something in return for your emotional support. This at the least may establish realistic expectations; in addition it may offer him or her motivation to get their own emotional life in order. Otherwise, at a minimum you would probably have recognized where you stood and walked away along with your self respect in one piece before the marriage.

Every unsuccessful relationship is damaging not merely because you lose a companion but simply because you end up feeling dishonored, cheated, or even violated. Up until you let your existing partner or a prospective partner lovingly understand that they have their part to maintain in a loving relationship, you will simply continue to keep on repeating the routine of disrespecting one self with same person or with someone new and you have been, largely in part, to blame yourself.  The benefits from the emotional experience of getting cheated is a motivation to take care of yourself better in the future or in upcoming relationships.